How to Write a Wedding Speech
April 28, 2024
Even for if you're the best friend or sibling, writing a wedding speech can be a daunting task. We'll cover the do's and don'ts, and if you don't know where to start, we can help!
Know the Schedule
Speeches usually happen during the reception, after the meal but before the party kicks off. As a rule of thumb, the father of the bride goes first, followed by the best man, and then the maid of honor. But hey, it’s 2024—there’s room to mix it up! Make sure you know when the speeches will happen, what order they will go in, and the logistics... will there be a microphone? Who will you get it from? Who should you hand it to after? Understanding these little details will make you feel more confident and ensure everything goes smoothly!
Know Your Crowd
Okay, let's talk audience. That high school story might have the 20-somethings howling, but remember, Grandma’s in the room, too. Leave out the edgier details, and aim for something that tickles everyone’s funny bone and tugs at their heartstrings.
Get Personal, But Keep It Classy
Dive into those memories, but let’s keep the exes and facepalm moments to a minimum, shall we? It's good to get some laughs, but pick stories that shine a flattering light on the bride or groom without spilling too much tea.
Structure Is Key
Start strong with a self-introduction and how you know the couple. Lead into the body with your main stories or messages, and conclude with a heartfelt wish or toast to the couple’s future. This flow helps keep your speech cohesive and engaging. Don't forget to complement the bride!
Short, Sweet, and Snappy
This is not your final presentation for your communications class, we're going to quality not quantity here. Keep your speech short and sweet, around 3-5 minutes max. Get to the good stuff, make them laugh, make them cry, and drop the mic (figuratively, please).
Rehearse, Rinse, Repeat
Practice makes perfect, and that applies to wedding speeches too. Rehearse till you can do it in your sleep, but keep it fresh so it doesn’t sound like a robot is giving the toast.
Emotion is Everything
Show some feels! It’s a wedding, after all. Let your affection for the couple shine through. A genuine speech beats a perfectly polished one any day.
Handling Nerves Like a Pro
Nervous? Totally normal. Turn those butterflies into energy. Take deep breaths, focus on your friendship with the couple, and remember: the audience is rooting for you.
For more epic wedding speech tips, check out our guides on Maid of Honor Speeches, Best Man Speeches, and more.
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